It's ok, it's not just you.
Perimenopause hormones and a side order of ADHD and/or autism have screwed your brain and your body.
You don’t have to keep fighting against yourself as well as the rest of the world.
I’m Carolyn Arnold, recovering accountant, clinical hypnotherapist and Havening Practitioner®. I help clever, exhausted women like you work out what the hell is going on underneath all that overwhelm, and do something about it.
Grab a cuppa. Take the quiz below. You’re about to find out how you can finally put down the weight you didn't even know you were carrying.
Sound Familiar?
You woke up at 3am remembering something urgent you'd forgotten to do. You spent the next hour worrying about it. Now it's time to get up and you've forgotten wtf it was again.
You sat through a meeting and forgot what the action points were while you were midway through typing them. You followed up with the online meeting where the questions kept coming, but your brain was still struggling to answer the first one.
Something snapped inside you and you slammed down the laptop (you've faked connection problems in the past), followed by a meltdown in the toilets. You stayed there as long as you could - you couldn't face having to sneak back to your desk, knowing that everyone saw what happened.
Now you're home, it's dinner time. You've got a fridge full of healthy stuff nearly past the 'use by' dates, but it's too much effort to cook, so a takeaway is winging its way to you before you can guilt-trip yourself out of it.
Somehow, the rest of the evening has gone, vanished in a puff of doom-scrolling smoke.
You haven't mentioned any of this to your other half, but they have the audacity to breathe too loudly.
Apparently this is the best time to list everything that's wrong with them with ever increasing volume until you sob uncontrollably into your pillow, hating what's happening to you.
Because you know this isn't YOU. This feels alien, like you've been possessed by someone you don't know at all.
And now you're going to stay awake, replaying the mistakes of the day over and over, trying out all the different scenarios to figure out what to say and do next time, like Doctor Strange dipping into the Multiverse of alternate timelines to find the one where everything works.
If you're reading this thinking, ‘FFS, that's my Tuesday’, there's a reason.
Perimenopause can take coping strategies you've relied on for years and give them a good kicking. And if you're also autistic, ADHD, or beginning to wonder whether you might be, things that were already taking more effort than anyone realised can suddenly become much harder to hide.
That's often when women start wondering why they can't cope anymore.
The better question might be: how the hell did you cope with all of this for so long?
What happened in your past can shape how you react, protect yourself and make choices in the present. And those choices quietly create the path towards your future.
I help women recognise and release the emotional patterns keeping them stuck in old loops, so they can stop repeating the past and begin creating a different future, as the more authentic, unmasked version of themselves they're becoming.
I call that regeneration.
You can't change what happened.
You CAN change how it impacts you and what happens next.